The reality stakes for Aspie Adults

As many people are aware, Asperger Syndrome covers a broad spectrum and effects each individual differently. However, what I cannot understand is why people are unable to accept Asperger Syndrome as a disability as well as some sectors of the medical fraternity. If adults with Asperger Syndrome represent the highest unemployment stakes and some are unable to enter or find relationships or suffer social isolation, then what account do closed minded people have to explain Asperger Syndrome as not being a disability or a cognitive impairment. I constantly find the world around me is often not understanding of my situation. Being the much used label word "Single", I find friends around me and some areas of the socialisation process coy and excluding of my as an individual. If you keep to yourself, society seems to portray you as some kind of deviant or dysfunctional human being and as one ignoramus put it, "Do you think you would enter a gay relationship?". What is it with people and why do they have to try and put people into boxes when they don't understand that Asperger Syndrome is a reality and people like myself are looking around for services. We live in a very cruel and conforming world where the mass media pumps out make believe and false images of success and those of us who are single, especially Aspie would like a relationship with someone of the opposite sex but it is all too much in the hard basket. I know of some adults who actually pay for sex because they are unable to know the social queues and games which need to be played to enter a relationship. I like many other Aspies have had ignorant people act on their false assumptions of thinking that a single person who is Aspie must be gay or entering the priesthood or have some other label if they are not in a relationship. I often find the world has more of an issue with me not being in a relationship than I think myself. There is nothing wrong with certain groups of people and the ones above mentioned have contributed a great wealth of talent and incentive into the world despite their different wiring. Some of those who perhaps want to persecute them have a fear of not accepting their deep down insecurities themselves and feel it useful to vent their anger on others. I think people don't realise who controlled they are by the television and media around them. The mechanisms which were once in place that were considered socially acceptable are fast breaking down themselves and nobody seems to know what to do about them. Life is not always fair but you need to make a go of things no matter how difficult these can be. I find I have to continually work on my flaws and try to conform to the NT world which I don't find easy. I struggle with chit chat and making small talk, I am serious a lot but I have had to organise my life to be where I am today. I have had to reinvent and jettison some of my Aspie traits because when I was younger, I said things straight out with thinking about them. I was punished wrongly and misunderstood in a school which sought to punish sensory issues. For instance in one instance I had to sit close to a door in the classroom as I had a phobia and I was reprimanded by a teacher for choosing to sit there despite her own neurosis of wanting children to sit on the other side of the room. I thought my actions were justified as there were chairs there and I thought I was in a classroom and had the right to sit on one. Anyhow, people need to change as the world cannot be all one way. NT people have to realise that Aspies cannot always try to be NT as sometimes the scales need to tilt the other way in understanding. I know some people may choose to disagree with what I am saying but please try to understand that Asperger Syndrome is a reality and it cannot continue to be swept under the carpet or ignored.